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WEEK #21 “IT IS DIFFICULT TO FIND A COURTEOUS PERSON TODAY WHO IS NOT TRYING TO SELL YOU SOMETHING.”

Kids watch their parents like a hawk. Every time I went to Jo Ann Fabrics, Pill & Puff, Grebe’s Bakery, or Galst Foods with my mom she reached into her purse, pulled out her wallet and began writing a check. It was a monumental achievement to learn how to fill in the date, payee, cursive dollar amount, digit dollar amount, signature, and lest we not forget—the ever important MEMO. Yes, the complex skill of learning how to document a promissory note to a vendor was taught in classrooms across the continent as a BASIC LIFE SKILL....which is quite interesting because when I opened my first bank account I was much more careful about ordering the cutest check design than the accuracy of the contract. Shall I choose the cute checks with the pretty rose in the corner? Maybe the free, generic plain ones? Carbon copy duplicates OR... trust myself to update the register?

Now that you see where my focus was, you will totally get—that sooner than later—I received notice of an overdraft. 🤦🏽‍♀️When I contacted the bank I was told,

“A check was presented to the bank and your account had insufficient funds; Therefore, AS A COURTESY, your item was paid and you were charged a $35 fee.” 😮

My response: “$35!??? Why didn’t you just reject it!??? That’s a hefty fee!” I totally ignored the kind gesture part because I had to PAY for it.

The other day a friend of mine mentioned that she was attempting to cross the street without a traffic light, and even though the cars going by saw her standing there, they sped on by and kept going. “THEY SEE ME”, she said,....”BUT THEY DON’T EVEN HAVE THE COMMON COURTESY TO STOP AND LET ME CROSS!” In my head, all I could think was ‘...but the cars are not required to stop because they have the right of way.’ Are we supposed to penalize people who follow rules and ‘stay in their own lane’ even though they had an option to go above and beyond? 🤷🏽‍♀️

If you are a woman living in Atlanta, Georgia, it is likely that each time you approach an office entrance a man will go out of his way to hold the door open for you. If you live in Wisconsin and you are approaching an office or any building entrance......., well....um.....DON’T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU WHERE THE GOOD LORD SPLIT YA! 🥺

Courtesy, which is usually a chunk of generosity sprinkled with a spoonful of politeness and respect should generally be done purely out of the kindness of one’s heart—without expectation or cost. Most often it seems that we extend courtesies to others while subconsciously assuming that someone else will do the same. Acts of kindness and courtesy might be more visible in certain regions or territories, yet in order to truly yield the genuine, happy KARMIC REWARD, such acts should be done solely because one wants to and is eager to serve or honor that person, that being, or the universe. Giving someone $50 because, ‘you don’t want to hear their mouth’ later, does NOT translate into a courtesy. Baking a cake for a neighbor because they brought over a pie last month and you don’t want them to have something to “hold over your head”—also, NOT a courtesy. Kids watch their parents like a hawk, including the selfless deeds they do or don’t perform each day for others. I have not met many parents who fail to teach their children to be NICE to others. Only after the suffering of numerous storms or catastrophes do many humans lean toward a philosophy that no one owes us anything and being alive and able-bodied is a gift to be cherished and appreciated with every breath. My hope for all is that with or without trauma, courtesy becomes a natural way of life that never requires or expects payback.

Oh, wait...my OTHER hope is that you do not put too many bills on autopay with Chase Bank.

It is time....ANNNNND.....ON My Q...... IN 10 WEEKS ONMYQ CELEBRATES ONE FULL YEAR! HANG IN THERE WITH ME TO CELEBRATE! NEXT, if you spoke GALLAS instead of Galst, you are SOOO MILWAUKEE! What stores do you recall visiting with your mom as a kid? Do you remember your first book of checks? Do you still use them? When was the last time you performed an act of courtesy with zero expectations? You all fill me with joy and I appreciate you reading my blog each week! #booktitlein5weeks

LOVE Y’ALL!

✍🏽Crys


WEEK #20 “LIFE IS LIKE A VIDEO GAME; IF YOU MEET ENEMIES ALONG THE WAY THEN YOU'RE GOING THE RIGHT WAY."

It was nineteen seventy something when my friend Tiffany, a few houses down the street, had SELECT TV—one of the first cable television options. I was so jealous because only select people had SELECT TV! There was even a very special key 🔑that had to be used on the console for access to “certain movies”.🤭🤫 SELECT TV was truly a THING in our neighborhood and for the longest I was disappointed that we did not (EVER) have it.

That disappointment disappeared when we got ATARI.

School. Homework. PAC MAN. EVERY DAY. I used the joystick to guide the yellow circle guy around and through the game’s maze in an attempt to gobble up all the dots in the board; all the while trying to eat the bonus strawberries and cherries to earn extra points. Did I mention that several bright-colored ghosts were chasing this yellow guy—like seriously trying to take him OUT!?? If the ghost touched him (3 times) GAME OVER. I should mention that in each of the 4 corners of the game board was a bigger dot—power pellets—that gave PAC MAN energy to go faster, AND made him temporarily invincible with the power to eat the ghosts. Sometimes it felt like those power pellets were miles in-between because the ghosts were not only in constant pursuit of PAC MAN but also seemed to hover over and guard PAC MAN’S 4 power sources. These ghosts had nothing better to do than to make PAC MAN’s life MISERABLE.

What made PAC MAN even more gripping was my desire to BEAT THE GAME. I learned that even if I kept winning boards and extra lives, there were only so many points that would calculate. WHAT WOULD HAPPEN ONCE I REACHED THE MOST POSSIBLE POINTS? I had to know. And I had to find out....not by seeing someone else do it. I had to get there and beat the game myself. So I played. CONSTANTLY. Usually alone and in silence. People occasionally watched. They were intrigued but only for awhile; Until they saw one day that it was really going to happen. She’s SO CLOSE! Oh wow....here it comes!

🤗 And I did it. The screen started blinking and flashing, then suddenly IT FLIPPED. I BEAT THE GAME. I didn’t succumb to the numerous times the ghosts took my game lives along the way. The score went back to zero and the game started over.

As an entrepreneur and someone who has mega goals, I sometimes forget about the CONQUER button in my brain. I try to convince myself that caffeine drives my conquer abilities; my beat-the-game mentality existed before I ever had a cup of coffee! We have to play the game each and every day. Translation: DISCIPLINE. Eating the dots is writing pages of my book, putting money in the savings account, praying, creating the business plan, eating the right foods, cultivating customers, reading books, filling out LLC paperwork, turning off the tv, or giving out business cards. Those 4 power pellets in the corners of life could be mentors, experiences, or spiritual uplift that sets you afire and makes you invincible in the pursuit of goals and dreams. Ghosts are definitely lurking—pessimists and even so-called friends who say they are on your side yet give lackluster support. Ghosts are also the NO’s you receive from loan officers or potential clients. When we activate that CONQUER button within, we will often work alone; many who start off with us lose faith, get impatient, and withdraw from cheering us on. Take advantage, ALWAYS, of the fruit carefully positioned on the path to encourage and boost your confidence when you are overwhelmed with all the DOTS and GHOSTS! When you achieve your goal and when you make that dream come true, there WILL be flashing lights (because of all the celebratory champagne) and your life— just like the PAC MAN game—will flip!

Hey GAMERS (of life) ON MY Q.....PLEASE COMMENT BELOW! WHAT WAS OR IS YOUR FAVORITE VIDEO GAME? Mario? Sonic? GTA?? What or who has been a POWER PELLET, FRUIT, or a GHOST in your quest for success or happiness? Just as I always promise, another piece of my journal for your journey. Have a great week!

LOVE Y’ALL!

🍒CRYS

                     

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